Many of us are constantly searching for “The Why.” We spend day after day chasing down “prolific” answers without slowing down to ask the “simple” questions. It’s a mystery how anyone expects to receive a great gift of an answer without having the courage to ask a, seemingly, terrifying question. Answers drive our actions. These very actions tend to lead to rushed conclusions, forced relationships, and nearly ready projects and presentations. Why? Because there was not enough time spent asking the questions that lead to the why. Haste makes waste, right? At least that’s what we’re told in our adolescence when it’s clear that we’ve skipped basic steps in *insert activity here*. And up until this point in time, this particular idiom hasn’t seemed to have been proven wrong. Haste makes waste. If you hastily try to achieve your answers, the chances are you’ve wasted the very time you could have been seeking knowledge, by simply wanting your
instant gratification. Enough of my soap box, let me clear things up a bit.
From the age we can talk, humans are drawn to finding “The Why.” There’s been countless films and short stories devoted to proving that children are in fact the world’s not so secret, secret geniuses. What do kids do when they don’t understand something? They ask about it. How often do kids not understand something? Every moment of everyday. What separates them from most of the world is their wonderment. Kids spend their time wandering around and wondering about the existence of, well, everything. They want to learn about the origins of the pavement we walk on to the chemical make up of air we breathe. Questions drive their actions. Yes, of course their end goal is similar to ours…they ask the questions because they want the answers. What sets them apart? Their lack of fear. While children may be spooked by The Boogeyman, or a towel hanging on their bedpost, that looks like a monster when the twilight hits their room in the dark, they are not afraid of answers. We are. Why must we be too afraid to spend our days like we used to: asking a million questions and seeking the knowledge through our own playful investigations. Why? Because the very questions which can help us to find “The Why,” are the catalysts which have brought our question asking to a halt. Somewhere along the line, usually still in grade school, asking questions becomes too risky. You ask one question that may seem out of the ordinary, and all of a sudden the entire class is in an uproar. Ouch. You feel your first sting. And then it happens again. And again. Until finally, you’re at a point where you want answers, but you’re not willing to put yourself through the embarrassment or strife of trying to find them. That shouldn’t happen.
We all need to return to our natural state of wonderment. We need to go into the woods and wander and pick up rocks and get our hands dirty and ask a million questions with the hope that they may just lead to one fulfilling answer. We need to find pleasure in the searching and realize that the true answers are found in the journey itself. The path you choose to take determines the kind of answers you’ll receive. If you’re looking for instant gratification, then simply settle for the first answer that pops up on your lazy google search. But YOUR truth lies in the work that you’re willing to put into it. People want “The Why.” And just as everyone’s “Why” should be different, the way they get to it will be as well. Search, explore, live, and ask. Don’t settle and don’t allow the uneasiness of the unknown to keep you from truly taking a leap of faith to figure it out. Sometimes all you have to do to seek the truth is ask. You may have to ask more than once, and you may have to vary the way in which you ask, but if you really want the answer, the least you can do is ask….right?